It’s been almost a year now since my fiance proposed to me, and the wedding plans are pretty much in full swing at the moment. Before you ask, no we are not getting married this year. More so, next year. Yes – I know what you may be thinking, isn’t it way too early to be planning the wedding? Maybe, for some traditions. But when you are talking about two Hindu families being bought together, and all the festivities that take place for our special day, some would say a year is leaving it too late! Knowingly, there a lot of Asian couples start planning almost two years in advance for their big day. So I like to think I’m being some-what laid back about our plans. And certainly avoiding the curse of becoming a bridezilla! In the first edition: to Indian wedding or not.
It actually surprises me how many people know of the traditions behind a Hindu wedding. When I was speaking to a few friends, thinking there is no chance they would know what takes place at these types of weddings, it kind of hit me that actually, people do know. I, myself, am guilty of not really being in the know with the whole Hindu wedding sha-bang – awful I know! So when it came down to planning, there was kind of this big question as to whether or not we should have a Hindu wedding, or just a registry, obviously with a reception as the after party.
Honestly, I would spend relentless hours trying to figure out what happened at a Hindu wedding, the timings, what everything meant, what the pre-events are, looking for suppliers, the list was endless! Then there was the hours spent scrolling through pinterest looking at all the beautiful Mandaps etc.
It actually got to a point where my fiance and I had the wedding and reception almost booked, and were ready to go ahead with the plans and contracts. It was only really when we sat down and thought about it, that we realised, although we valued our traditions and the meanings behind it, we didn’t need a big Hindu ceremony to show or prove that. If you come from a Hindu family like me, or have any inclination as to what they are like, you would know that this served as a major shock horror to both sets of parents. Luckily, though, they both came round to the idea.
In our opinion, it isn’t about putting on a grand show for all your guests – some of which won’t understand what is taking place anyways! It was and is about spending our day with our loved ones, and having blessings in our own way, as a small ceremony. There are so many couples out there who can spend £1,000’s on the ceremony, and want to make it as grand as they can. If you want to, and can, why not. I guess it depends on what you prefer, and what type of wedding you want. Some like public displays of their faith and religion, others prefer to be more private about it.
All in all though, it must be something that you and your other half want to do, don’t be swayed by family members trying to take over. End of the day, it’s your wedding, and your big day!
Please note, the picture is a stock used from HERE
What are your thoughts on following traditions for your big day?
Hey Aarti!
Thanks for your kind words
It’s sometimes difficult with hindu parents, as they either take over the wedding plans or want a traditional wedding. Trust me, when you get to that point take complete control.
Vanisha xo